thanks perna..... making friends with the bartender is a good idea. though again it's probably going to be a while before i go out to a bar again. as far as my coworker, like i said she basically got kicked out. her fault for acting up for sure, but i guess i can understand how she may have been unable to find me. still, when she asked me to go out this past weekend - i said thanks but i think i'll stay in tonight.