Thanks. It´s quite spot on, "T not being my type of person", it´s sometimes how I feel about her even if I don´t know enough about her to say we´re totally different either. As you say, a feeling of sameness is important and my T has provided me with that too, telling me she lives by her own, she hasn´t got any kids and so on.

But as in many other cases, it´s the "bad stuff" that sticks, I think about the negative things she told me about her life. It´s a very interesting point you make, that you won´t have a report with a T who´s "too different" from you if you don´t hang out with, chat with such people in your ordinary life. That´s why I see the danger in self-disclosure by T:s, not just my T, that you get to know more and more about a T and finally you end up seeing someone with different moral standards, different values and so on.

My T has said several times that she kind of shows another way of being, as an example being less harsh, and it seems like she believes that her showing this will make me less harsh on myself. But that´s not the case, I don´t care about what she says, if being shown that other people are less harsh would be helpful end enough to be able to change, then I wouldn´t need therapy.