Thanks. It has to do about things my T told me about relationships, nothing severe but it though tells me or gives me the impression that she has character traits I really donīt like. As you say, a T showing several different values I donīt comply to can make me see her differently and in another light. It also gets complicated when she tries to "transfer" traits she has on me to get me to for example get less anxiety. As an example - be less harsh as she is so I donīt have to be so hard om myself.
Such techniques donīt work at all on me!
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Originally Posted by Lauliza
I'm not sure what kinds of actions you're referring to since much of what teens do is immature and can be foolish. My opinion of people isn't affected much by knowing what they may have done as a teen, even professionals, since I know people often change dramatically from their teen to adult years. If it was something criminal or otherwise alarming, that might be different, however.
That said, I would not want my T to share much about themselves. I've never had a T share so much personal info that I've lost faith in them and I am glad for that. A T using their own behavior to "normalize" things isn't good therapy, in my opinion, since that assumes that because a T did something that makes it the norm, which it absolutely doesn't. It can absolutely change how a client sees them if it exposes very different set of values.
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