I begin to wonder if all my T and I do is problematize during sessions. Normally I tell her about "problems" during the week, how I felt and worries that came up. Then I usually connect what I tell her to my complex of problems, like low self esteem, perfectionism and so on. How that might be connected, how it might have occurred in the first place and so on. I feel it´s more me who brings "new material" than her actually presenting something new and changing.

She often tells me something from her life, small things like something about a friend who experienced a similar thing or something that happened to her that have a connection to what I´ve told her.

But that´s it! It more or less always feels good talking to her and vent but I begin to ask myself if she is getting to my defences at all. She tries to go back to my childhood, that's completely fine but as I haven´t got any difficult memories from that time I don´t have anything much to present to her.

I thought it would be a lot more about getting to the subconscious, being questioned in a tactical and stepwise way. Now it´s more like a discussion, perhaps she uses a technique that´s about her being a model for different ways of thinking. I won´t listen to that, I´m not there to "incorporate" her stories, I want more of a change. She is psychodynamic and by that she should know about the stuff I look for.

What´s your opinion on this?