Thanks. Yes, I agree some pattern has to be broken down and shifted to something else but I canīt do this by my own. I donīt have any clear memories about how the low self esteem occurred in the first place, I have told my T a bit about my early school years and what happened there and so on.
I also agree low self esteem occurred early in my life but it wonīt help me that she tries to bring some memories forward when I donīt have any specific memories about that. I mean, I canīt present a period of severe bullying or something like that.
Itīs like just digging and asking questions I donīt have any answers to.
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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
I think you've posted something about this before - her not asking deep questions. What you're getting doesn't seem like therapy to me.
She may be following your lead. So instead of following the usual pattern and talking about your week and drawing intellectual links between current daily problems and larger issues, why not skip that, pick one of those larger issues and really explore it - like why you have low self-esteem, when did it start, what's your first memory of it, how do you descrbe yourself to yourself, how do you present yourself to others, etc. Sometimes you have to lead the dance.
Also I think low self-esteem and perfectionism are very likely to stem from childhood experiences and that she is on the right track there.
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