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Old Sep 23, 2016, 08:45 AM
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Originally Posted by SarahSweden View Post
Thanks. Yes, I agree some pattern has to be broken down and shifted to something else but I canīt do this by my own. I donīt have any clear memories about how the low self esteem occurred in the first place, I have told my T a bit about my early school years and what happened there and so on.

I also agree low self esteem occurred early in my life but it wonīt help me that she tries to bring some memories forward when I donīt have any specific memories about that. I mean, I canīt present a period of severe bullying or something like that.

Itīs like just digging and asking questions I donīt have any answers to.
I think you may be thinking too much in terms of direct cause and effect. Low self-esteem and perfectionism are caused not just by an event like bullying, but persistent factors in your environment as well.

What I would be asking if I were her is something like when do you first remember feeling low self-esteem/bad about yourself, what else (not necessarily related to low self-esteem) was going on in your life at the time, how were the people in your life behaving at the time, etc.
Thanks for this!
SarahSweden