Avoidants find it harder. We can have deep relationships. I'm in one with my partner/fiance. However, it can take years to build the trust up to develop these relationships. Outside of my partner, I'm not really "close" to anyone else.

For those of us with AvPD, we may often feel our relationships aren't deep... even if the other person feels differently. For example, many people say they love me as a friend. I don't feel the same toward them, and avoid that feeling. I, also, frequently question how much they truly care, which leads to often avoiding them. This is a key trait in the diagnosis of AvPD.