I believe that part of my therapy is limited reparenting. My Old T was the one who first led me to the phrase and I did try to research it but with little luck. A couple of crazy practioners who took it to the extreme made the concept one that is frowned upon by a lot of people, unfortunately.

How it works for me is that my T is there for me as a patent should be for a child. I come first, my needs ate listened to and discussed and met, as much as they can be by her. I can't change who she is and her traits etc but I am free to bring anything into the room, be that about the outside or about her, or us. Along with all the normal things one should experience from a T or in therapy there are subtle extras, as I see it. The use of play or working creatively helps my inner child to show herself. The modelling of feelings by my T to help me learn by example. The appropriate use of safe touch. The ability to text or email a couple of times a week, to tell her things I can't in person or to check she is still there. The patience that is so necessary in this process.

I told her straight up that this is what I wanted and what I felt I needed (though that word was pretty much banned at the beginning) and she didn't run a mile. Interestingly enough I see her as my 'good enough mother' who is teaching my adult to be this for myself, but she did not see this when we last spoke of it. It nearly upset me a lot but I figured that a couple of words did not change what was happening between us, the fact that I 'felt' that she was being this regardless of what she believed.

I don't know if this helps at all. I may think of more to add later.