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Originally Posted by BrokenCloud
I think the one that hurts me even more than this one is when people (supposed friends) tell me to call if I need anything, then they're always too busy or unavailable when I do call ... Like how nice it would be to tag-a-long to the grocery store on a cold, wet, rainy weekend when my arthritis is just to painful to crawl on my moped (can't afford a car) and get there myself ... I've learned to just quit asking and make do some other way ... I wish they just wouldn't even offer at all in the first place ... I know people are busy and that their lives are involved, but don't say and offer things you don't really mean because it's disingenuous and hurts!
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BrokenCloud I'm sorry that those people you mentioned in your post act that way. It's so disingenuous to invite you to call on them when you need help, but then they are suddenly too busy to help you. I think that is very rude and definitely an example of why "too busy" is a total lie and excuse people use. I agree with you. If their true intentions aren't to help you, then they shouldn't invite you to ask them for help. It only confuses you -- which is not your fault, but their fault. I would be confused too. And irritated and disappointed.
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Originally Posted by LauraBeth
I have this problem with my oldest sister. It's really hurtful to me, and I've built up a lot of resentment because she SAYS she cares so much about me, yet I am apparently low on her list of priorities.
Then, too, my sister has a serious issue with time management. So her lack of attention toward me might just not be about me at all.
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LauraBeth,
I don't blame you for feeling resentful towards your older sister. I doubt it is her poor time management. I was once friends with a woman who was chronically late to every place I invited her. After two years of putting up with it, I ended the friendship because chronic lateness is a lack of respect of my time.