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Originally Posted by ScientiaOmnisEst
Myst: For all I know, the whole "if you try to cook I'll have you arrested" deal is just another empty threat, another angry ramble. It wouldn't be the first time, and it's certainly not the first time my mother's gone on about having me removed or put into care or something of that nature.
My living situation, I've realized, is not a real problem. I'm an adult and I should have moved out four or five years ago. Everyone - from the internet to my mom's lawyer and psychiatrist, stand by "my house, my rules" - if she wants to forbid me from cooking, not let me leave the house, dictate what I can and can't wear, she can, and I have no rights because I'm a "squatter". To me it's absurd, partly because of my age and that, although my mother claims I live for free, I actually pay around $250 a month (according to her, no judge would accept that as "valid" rent, and her psych calls that paltry amount "responsibility money" that I should pay out of my own conscience).
Also, it's one thing for a landlord to set rules like "no pets" or "no smoking". But can you imagine a landlord dictating what their tenants could eat, watch, practice, when they could leave the building...? It's ridiculous and frustrating.
In other words, I have no rights, I'm a failure at life, and I deserve to be here. There's nothing I can do but leave when I can, or else be thrown out.
I tried to live alone for about a year, and if anything I got worse.
My mother hates me. I think. She's been really batting between love and hate lately. It's kind of weird, though I'm used to it by now.
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My dad fit the same bill when I had to live with him again for a bit. When I moved out, I made sure it was with someone I trusted and who knew about my issues. It took me leaving again to realize that I had more rights than I originally considered. All of my dad's friends hated me with a passion. Said I was a free loader and shouldn't have been getting any help from him. That it wasn't teaching me anything and that I was just an extra stessor for him. Thing is, the reason I went back in the first place was because I needed full time care (which I received from my mother) because I had undergone two surgeries and was beginning radiation therapy.
I didn't deserve that. I'm guessing you aren't physically ill but that doesn't matter. Your mental health issues, believe it or not, are equal to my physical ones. It's just as debilitating and demands treatment. You are worth it. You deserve the help, not hostility.
I'm not attacking your mom, I'm attacking the idea that has been put into your head that you don't deserve help. You do deserve it. You need it. No one has the right to say otherwise. You sure as hell don't deserve to feel guilty for being sick.
Look up "renter's rights" and "valid rent" laws for your state. Be armed with information so that her scare tactics won't mean anything. Get a free lawyer consultation to see if you might be able to stand up to her in court if it comes to that. Information is power and that's what you need with someone like that.