When I told my T about my feelings for my marriage counselor, she told me she was going to talk to a couple other T's (anonymously) to see what they thought I should do--whether I should ask him if I could have an individual session to discuss, if T should tell him, if I should e-mail him, just deal with it in T, etc. I appreciated that she was doing this, since she was admitting she was unsure of what to do in that situation, even though she'd been in practice >30 years. Turned out they all agreed that I should ask him for an individual session (which I did, and it worked out).