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Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987
I personally think it is a horrible idea and really question why any therapist would attempt this. I had really traumatic childhood and it is NOT something I would want at all. How does it end? I just can't understand how it can end well. Eventually therapy will end and the therapist will be gone and it's assumed (I suppose) that by the time this happens the client will be healed enough to not need or want the therapist anymore, but I just cannot see how that would happen. How can you just not have someone in your life like that who has played that role? How will that not also be traumatic and painful?
I think it's awful. Hope it works for the people who try it, but I've seen it end badly here many times.
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My T and I have discussed this topic. She says that 1. I'm not required to outgrow needing her. She's not going to stop seeing me if I need to see her
BUT as we do with parents, likely I will need her input and support less as I grow. Which I already see slowly happening.
And no matter what she will always be open to contact with me. If she is practicing her door is always open. If she isn't we will figure things out.
And it COULD all go to hell and she could terminate me but from my point of view , the healing that has taken place in me is permanent. It does not belong to my T. It belongs to me. *I* am different, with or without her.
So even though it would be very painful and traumatic ( and I have a pretty good idea what that would be like BC I had a mentor who was like a big sister to me. For 10 years who cut off all contact) I feel its worth the risk because I have not been successful finding this kind of healing any other way
I suppose if you are successful with a less relationship -intensive type of healing it might be worth avoiding. I wasn't so for me, I'm willing to risk.it going badly.