Sorry to barge in but how would you differentiate between whether you have experienced reparenting in therapy or just extreme paternal/maternal transference and interpreted Ts care and understanding as that you wish you'd had as a child?

Ex T definitely taught me a lot of things that were actually blindingly obvious, things that I should have learned in my childhood and adolescence but failed to pick up. I'm not sure who I should have learned these things from. Perhaps it wasn't my parents or family that were responsible but my lack of friendships and relationships throughout life - in other words, me. Regardless, a lot of what I believed about life was hugely inaccurate. I thought everybody has it together except me, everybody always knew what they were feeling except me, and everybody was brilliant at relationships except me. Ex T taught me that contrary to my lifelong beliefs, a lot of what I felt was entirely normal which was a relief if not terrifying after spending much of my life believing I was born in the wrong era or to the wrong species.

Ex T would also allow hugs which I gathered was a bit of an experiment on her part as it was not how she would normally practice.

In the end though, it all turned sour. I finally felt like I had what I had been missing my whole life from my parents, but of course, this is therapy, not real life and it was all taken away from me when therapy ended because although I still have everything she taught me, it is too painful to think back on now that I no longer have this person in my life.