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Originally Posted by LauraBeth
I don't think anyone is attacking anyone. This is a good and helpful thread. I do believe that a lot of people are very, very poor at time management skills - but many people also don't make it a priority to take control of their time; they continue to abuse others by being neglectful or chronically late. Bottom line is that it is terribly disrespectful to friends and family when someone takes weeks (or months) to answer emails, or is late to every get-together. The message is: You really are not important enough to me for me to work at making a change.
I am currently estranged from my sister because of a lifetime of her disrespecting my time. I finally had enough of it. I finally called her out on it. Waiting a month to get an answer to an email, waiting 1 1/2 hours at a restaurant for her to show up (with a bunch of lame excuses about why she's late AGAIN)...no. People like that are toxic and cruel.
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LauraBeth sorry to hear about your lifetime estrangement from your sister. I think it's really rude that she'd wait a month to answer your email, or leave you waiting for 90 minutes at a restaurant (a former friend of mine did that to me on my birthday and we're no longer friends).
Know that I empathize with you, because I am estranged from my toxic brother for the rest of our lives and am far better off. Just because they are members of our family, doesn't exempt them from respectful, civil behavior and this includes that they show respect for our time.
And no, I wasn't personally attacking any of the posters in my thread who defend the "busy" excuse as being a valid excuse. We are all entitled to our opinions, obviously and don't need to agree with each other.
I posted a link to a YouTube video on the first page in one of my responses, that's a 3 minute summary of why the excuse of "too busy" is a lie, and is not a good use of communication. Has anyone watched it?
My friend did not have to wait 6 weeks to return my call. She chose to wait 6 weeks to email me that she can't call me because she's soooo busy. And when I suggested she call me over a weekend she again said she was sooo busy. She could have just ended her friendship with me via email. As it stands, I consider the friendship over anyway at this point. I would never use "I'm too busy" as an excuse to dismiss a friend's feelings or be disrespectful of their time.
And I really don't know how anyone who thinks "busy" isn't harmful, can justify it as a reasonable excuse. Because what excuse is reasonable? It's an excuse, after all. Not a reason. There's a huge difference between the two I think.