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So I do have some attachment to her and I care and want her to see that her actions to help me have helped me, I want her to see the fruits of her Christianity.

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Good morning, Shad!!
When you can, (when things are calmer) this is something that you can tell her, not in an argumentative way, but in a way that tells her that she is important to you. It may or may not help - as you have no control over how she acts/what she believes/etc. But it is a fine communication to give. It just basically says, "I care, YOU are important to ME, and you have not wasted your time on me." Shad, you can look at this situation as an opportunity, or you can look at it as a road block. From what I hear in your words you look to her as a mentor - let her know what the effect of her help has done for you - when you can, in little ways - but in keeping true to yourself. Your actions will always speak louder than words, what is it in your life right now that she guided you to and has made your life better? Knowing those things in your own heart will keep the appreciation for her fresh until this passes - and she begins to relax a little concerning her daughter. One day you may well be 'caught' doing something good by her, and you can turn right around and give her a hug, and say "You had a lot to do with this, thank you. I can't even begin to tell you how much you mean to me."

As a mother of a twenty three year old young women, I can understand what spending the night with people she does not know means, and why her mother would be so upset. My daughter was slipped a micky and raped in one such circumstance. Her boyfriend was slipped the same - and could not protect her. Not to lessen the trauma of the rape, but now days it can mean a death sentence for a young woman with AIDS and the other diseases that are so common. For me talking to my daughter about her life style and making good choices for her self was not for the sake of my faith, or hers, but the sake of her SAFETY. Please, I urge you, if you are in the company of your gf, please keep in mind her safety, make wise decisions about what you both expose yourselves to. The world can be a very unkind place. My father, never ever drank when he was taking my mother out - I asked him why - as my mother would come home pretty three sheets to the wind. He said "I can't protect her if I'm drunk." That spoke worlds to me.

I am assuming that you both are in your young twenties? - please correct me if I am wrong. I urge you - faith aside - to be very careful with her and with yourself. Make good choices that will build you both and will protect you both from harm.

(big heart!!)
Beth