Many of us have felt love for our therapists. Sometimes it's maternal, paternal,sometimes it's romantic, sometimes it's just love.. plain and simple. I recently shared this with my therapist ( via email). I explained that the love I feel for her isn't romantic, it's just love. I feel close to her, a sense of warmth. I don't know any other way to say it. When I asked her ( thru email) if she felt the same her response was a ; )
While I appreciate the boundaries and I have no desire to see her out of session I don't get why she can't just be real with me. She could simply say " yes, 1step I feel the same " or.. if not she might say " I care about you, 1step". Anything would be more validating than a ; ) . Maybe she struggles with closeness with clients, although she is warm and caring towards me. I don't know.. as DIFFICULT as it may be perhaps I should talk about it in session.