I'm so sorry you have not been getting the help you need. I never used to think that a diagnosis helped, and that the treatment would be the same regardless, but that turned out not to be true--a diagnosis of did has made a big difference because the treatment is more specific to what's going on and is more effective in helping me manage things--it also explained a lot that was not making sense under any other description. It's a struggle to accept, but at least it's a struggle with a name to it.

If no one is willing to diagnose what's going on, has anyone provided a trauma approach to therapy? At the very least, you will not find anyone blaming you or calling you manipulative, which is abusive in my opinion.