Passionfruit3,

I'm sorry you feel neglected.

Unhappydaze talks some sense though. Parents make mistakes but that doesn't mean they don't care.
They may mess up but then torture themselves with guilt. For all the parents I know, if their child is suffering, they feel pain and want to make things better. However, we can't take someone else's pain away however much we want to.

However, as adults or young people, we are responsible for what we do. We do what we do for our real reasons and our behaviour is understandable. If a person is truly determined to do something, then (beyond the age of about six or eight), no one can stop them. It is our choice (I agree choosing to stay safe can feel near impossible) but it is our decision to do or not do something.

It may sound harsh, but in the end it is my life, my body and therefore my responsibility, whatever age I am, and it is my choice to engage with harm or try to stay safe and engage in therapy and learning ways to cope with how i feel without causing myself more pain than I need to suffer.

I hope you can find a way forward for yourself so you can relate more comfortably with your parents too.