Yes, we are. And I'm not in the habit of counting, so to speak, who contacts who, how many times, and so forth. For me the numbers just don't matter. As long as he does, is what I look at and for. If I was doing all of the contacting as in doing all the work, that, for me, would be cause for concern.
I don't feel, believe that relationships should be built on and maintained by numbers.
For instance, when his mother was in the hospital, and I found out by calling her about something and his brother answered the phone, I heard something like his brother telling him that it was me. His response? I heard him in the background saying "I don't want to talk to anybody." Yes, I admit I had to remind myself, more than once, not to take that personally.
Now some would say/feel that he should have talked to me. Really? Why? Because he's my man? Look. His mother was sick! She was in the hospital! So how about me understanding that. At that moment who was most important? Me? Or his mother? I think logic and understanding would answer that.
And I mustn't forget that this is a man who is not well himself.
Already in the short time we've known each other I've already put him through some crazy stuff due to my insecurities, aka, baggage coupled with my bipolar depression. Yes it affected him. He got very angry with me one time, more like frustrated. But I say any man who can put up with me and my stuff is almost like a genius! So finally, what did he do prior to his leaving, in spite of everything? He said "There's nothing for you to worry about regarding our relationship." It blew me away! After all my stuff, he reassures me not to worry. Unbelievable!
So I'm not about to concern myself with how many times he contacts me, etc, etc, etc.