You're being extremely pushy with this guy, asking multiple times for him to video chat and then telling him he should drive to see you at X time. If you want any chance of it working, you need to back off and let him tell you when he is available to do all the work of driving down to see you. You should also do some of the work if you do start dating, like take the train/bus to come see him. Is there a reason you don't/can't drive? If possible, you could also work on getting a license.