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Originally Posted by ~Christina
My husbands son came to live with us he had barely graduated and was flat lazy !
My husband and I sat down and agreed to rules that were to be followed and agreed to be a united front, period.
Long story short he got his shyyt together, now married has a great job and our grandbaby just turned 1 .
There is no way I could tell my husband " no your son can't come here " Had he not worked to straighten his life out then there was going to be given time limits etc .
Had I told my husband " NO" there would have been so much resentment between us , our marriage would have likely ended.
I hope you and you're husband can agree to whatever happens ❤️
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Yes that is why it is so hard for me to just stand my ground and say "No I don't want her to live with us". I feel I should have the most say in it seeing as he only gives me his share of the mortgage (most months) and that's it! And sometimes he even needs for me to give him back $100 so he can make it to his next paycheck! He doesn't give me any money towards the phone, utilities, internet, car insurance, which adds up to another $600-$700 a month. Oh and then there's the $485 a month we have to pay the IRS because he stupidly took money out of his 401k not realizing the penalty on doing so. He does give me a couple $100 for that most of the time, but god knows why I'm paying any of it much less half of it for his mistake! I do all the grocery shopping which runs us another $300-$400 a month. I do all the cleaning and all the yardwork while he sits and plays his video game.
So I'm paying an extra $1200 a month, when it should only be half that because of no help from him and I'm doing everything around the house and HE gets a say on having his daughter live with us??? Great so then I can also pay for her!