You've been rather confrontational and rude with anyone on this thread who has tried to offer you a differing opinion on people saying they're busy.

As to the one individual you've mentioned - six weeks is crap and yeah I would agree that her excise and treatment of you isn't acceptable.

You're also correct that we do all have priorities. But they aren't all based on someone's preference. For example, I have to use time to care for my pets, clean the house, prepare work, shower, sleep, etc. Those are all things I have to put as a priority even when I don't want to. If someone asks me how things are and I reply "busy" then yes, I am in fact busy and am not making up an excuse. There's also a good chance that I may or may not have totally forgotten by the time I am no longer busy.

I value my friends and the time I spend with them. I also respect that they have lives beyond me and that our schedules may simply not match up for a long time. It doesn't mean they don't value me, or my time. They just have other things, which can include hobbies and other friends. Will those always come before me? No, but they can and often do because people change their priorities around.

If someone constantly and consistently didn't show any respect for my time, being significantly late regularly or cancelling last minute for no reason, then I consider that rude. If it's a long standing consistent thing the yes, I will know I am not a significant person in their life and will distance myself.

But if someone just says that they're busy a lot of the time? That's not a problem for me. I say that I am busy a lot, because I am. Sometimes my busy is me just being drained from work and life due to depression or anxiety. But I might not want to share that because I might not have the energy to. I might only have the energy to chat with 1 person at a time on fb - and is probably a first come first serve kinda thing. Depending on the level of trust o have I might say more as to why I'm busy - for example, Christina is a good online friend of mine. We can go weeks without chatting even though we're both clearly online. It happens, and we've never been mad - we just know that it usually means we are out of energy due to something or another.

And honestly? If someone was to get mad at me for being busy, I'd be fine cutting them out.

But in the case of the friend you've mentioned in your first post? Yeah, her excuse of busy is bulls***.