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Originally Posted by sophiesmom
I believe, from what you say, that you should maybe think about therapy for the two of you before you agree to this...
It seems to me that your financial decisions (not you personally, but how things are split) are not quite right and you have some resentment for that, in addition to how the house chores are split.
You also should maybe figure out if he's doing this simply to prove a point to his ex-wife...I think that needs to be brought to the forefront, too.
How will you make her pay her portion? Will you both agree on what is to be done about consequences?
This is, indeed, difficult. I can see both his point and your point as far as having his daughter live with you. And, no offense, but you do see how this marriage is affecting you, right?
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The whole point is to stop her from even coming when we tell her that she needs to pay $200/month! He'll say that she has no way to pay it and she can pay it off by doing chores or cooking dinner. No, I want to do the housework so that it gets done right. I actually enjoy cleaning and I am thorough at it.
Having her here isn't going to change the way she thinks. It isn't going to mean they spend more time together. Just like it is when she comes up to visit for a weekend and he'll sit and play his video game for hours, coming out to grab a beer or see what's going on and then go back and play some more. Then come out to cook and keep going back and forth between the game and the kitchen. Finally he may turn off the computer and come and hang out, but he's not going to spend anymore time with her if she's living here full time than he would on a visit.