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Originally Posted by MiddayNap
Ah, a very good question...I will help as best as I can.
It is OK not to know things and it is OK not to be good at things. It doesn't make you inferior and no one will think less of you for not being superb at every little thing. I find most people who hide their insecurities behind a veil of faux superiority have never been told this. I would say working on accepting your flaws is a part of building self-esteem.
Do you think perhaps the feelings of self-defeat occur because you are aware these feelings of superiority are unfounded? And do you think you have these feelings of superiority because you are afraid of being thought of as a failure? I don't mean to seem as though I am assuming things about you.
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Yes I feel like the feelings of superiority cause me self defeat because I know they are somewhat unfounded. And yes, I would say that I am terrified of rejection as well.
Another thing I just realized tonight is that I may isolate myself not due to social anxiety, but rather due to the stress that comes from the constant comparisons I make between myself and potential friends. In order to feel 100% secure in a friendship, I'm afraid that I would have to feel "better than"the other person in at least one way. Idk wtf is wrong with me and why I'm first realizing this now, but this is absolutely terrible and I want to fix it.