Mouse:

> Could you explain a little more? I don't think I'm fully understanding.

You mean -- you are confused?

If my therapist does something that reminds me of my mother, is that totally a misinterpretation by me, or does he actually do some similar things? If he really does things which are in some way similar, is it dangerous to me, the way the things my mother did were dangerous, or not? Can I admit that he does some things that are similar, and still cope with it -- or do I have to try to deny that he really does such things?

An example: he tells me how he is making things "safe" for me -- rather than doing them, he tells me he is doing them.

I think maybe, like my mother, he sometimes does things to get my approval. Or the "judge in his mind"'s approval.

My mother used to promise that things were OK too. They were not.

Have I confused you more?