I don't know what your mother did so I cannot really say. But my stepmother was angry, controlling and often abusive, physically and emotionally.

Your T doesn't live with you and only sees you an hour a week so it doesn't make a lot of sense, to me, that he would want the same things from you that your mother does who had "control" over you and lived with you and knew all about you for so many years?

My stepmother would always ask, "Why did you do that?" and I never had an answer for whatever it was. I was constantly conflicted because I was often in a double bind situation (A double bind is like when a man is asked: Have you quit beating your wife?" There's no way out of the situation; if he answers "yes" he admits to having beaten his wife and if he answers "no" then he's labelled as still beating her!) An easier way to understand, for me, is when my next older brother told me I was "wrong" handed (I'm left-handed :-) and I was too young and unsophisticated to to know how to get out of the problem using logic. I knew that the opposite of "wrong" was "right" and I wasn't right-handed so I must be wrong-handed!

Therapists (hopefully) help teach us "logic" and a bit more helpful experience we didn't get under our parents' narrow abuse/thinking.

But whenever my therapist would ask me a question, any question, I would feel as if she was trying to "trap" me because of my experience with my stepmother. It took many years of experience with my therapist to know her and to separate her and her actions from those of my stepmother's. My stepmother's unanswerable questions made me fear and "protect" myself from questions from anyone. But talking to my therapist for 18 years :-) (1978-1987 and 1996-2005) and "experiencing" the results of that conversation, how I was not "trapped" or "tortured" and my therapist did not get unreasonably angry or leave in disgust, etc. helped me sort things out so I can see things clearer and not be confused in the ways my stepmother confused me.