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My problem is, I think, no wait, believe, that I am ugly, fat, and replusive to others. I don't know how my husband stands the sight of me. The poor guy, he is a good looking man, and he is saddled with me forever. What was he thinking?

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Oh, Munkee, I'm so sorry you feel this way. I was helped by realizing other people DO love me and appreciate me and I love and respect them so, logically, they must see something in me that I don't see? I worked from there. You say you believe you are ugly, fat and repulsive to others but your husband says you are not (to him). Take that on faith. You have no "proof" you are ugly, fat, and repulsive to others; in fact, you have "proof" of the opposite because that is what others say and how they treat you. You cannot discredit other people, you would have to call your husband a liar! Others see what they see and know what they know and must be respected for having their own view and reporting it.

But anyway, just "believe" you are a fine looking woman and look for it in yourself. Since others see it, it must be there. You may have to wait to see it in yourself but that has nothing to do with whether it is there or not. I can't see my money in the bank but I've got some there and act like it when I write a check or use my credit card :-) Use others' opinions of you like a well-stocked credit card. Eventually it will become easier for you to have faith the "money" is there for real.