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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
My ex-T abandoned me a year and a half ago. I don't cry for her anymore, but I still have days where I miss her and think about her. I think it's just part of the grieving process, not that you have failed. Be patient with yourself. It's not your fault that this has happened.
Btw, I know you wrote another thread on this... Could your T think it's unethical to have you as a client again because it would re-foster your attachment to her? Sorry if it's off topic. I was just thinking of how seeing a client again would be unethical.
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She did mention dependency in relation to it being unethical but she was never willing to engage in a discussion about my attachment to her while I was in therapy. It was as though she avoided doing so and termination was a convenient way for her to deal with it, not that I was terminated for that reason. It just seemed as though she kept putting it off and was like, "Oh look, we've reached the end now anyway". As someone who struggles with attachment, shame and disgust IRL, the way she dealt with this only confirmed my belief that people are afraid of getting too close to me and vice versa them because I am disgusting and shameful.
