This sounds awful, itjustis. I think if you have some early attachment issues then you might benefit from seeing a T who allows out of session contact and returns emails promptly. And who doesn't change the rules of the game, miss sessions, end sessions early, etc. That sounds like a nightmare for anyone that has insecurities around attachments (which might be most of us!). Do you think you could try seeing another T once or twice, to test the idea of getting a different therapist, eventually? I can imagine that's a really sad thought, but I feel like this is causing you a lot of pain when it ought to be helping you feel better.