I think he simply wants to stick it to her mother that if she was with him she'd do so much better. She has not asked to come and live with us, nor has there even been an inkling that that's what she wants to do. It's like he's trying to bribe her to come up to show her how awesome it would be here. He even said that he wants to have over his coworker and his girlfriend who were over when daughter was here earlier this year. They are both 25 (way younger than us) but daughter immediately LOVED the girl because she was hip and older than her. H even says to me that maybe he can ply his daughter to come up here by telling her that this girl would come over one night!

We have been planning this long weekend for the two of us for 6 months now. We are leaving in 10 days, airplane tickets in hand. Last night he tells me (after a few drinks) "I was thinking of asking her to come with us, but it's kind of last minute so it probably wouldn't work out". Why on earth would you all of a sudden decide that she needs to join us simply because she's not doing anything else like going to school or working? Yes, let's reward her for not doing anything with her life! And let's rework all our own plans to include her! How is taking her on vacation helping her?