He's had PLENTY of chances and then always blows them off. I don't know how many times he's told her he'll come down and see her, but then never mentions it again or says something came up and he'll go next weekend, and never goes.

When she came up on a fairly regular basis when she was 14/15 he'd spend a majority of that weekend off doing his own thing. When she was 14 we went to pick her up and came home and as soon as we walked through the door at 11AM he said to us "I'm going to be downstairs in the garage working on my motorcycle most of the afternoon so you girls can entertain yourselves". Wow, really? You get less than 48 hours with her and you are going to work on your motorcycle and pawn her off on me? Then he finished up with that around 4PM, sat with us for about 10 minutes before going and taking a 1 hour bath. Didn't come down afterwards , but went and laid down for about a 3 hour nap! I had to send her to go wake him up at 8 so we could go out for dinner. Came home and we played interactive video games for a bit. He started drinking and drank all night. The next day he couldn't even get off the couch and take her back to her mother's. I had to do it!

This, not always to this extreme, is what it's like when she visits. He has her come up for a weekend, but he's got to work on Saturday (so why did he ask her to come up knowing he'll be gone for 10 hours?) so her and I get to hang out together all day while he gets the free pass of being at work. Then he comes home and has to chill on the computer and maybe spends 2 hours on the couch watching tv with her. So if he can't interact much with her when she visits for a weekend, then how the hell is he going to change her life if she moves here????