Hi Music. I don't know where you are either, but did you know that there is an organization that helps people who are mentally ill and their families? There are local chapters so you can get support from people in your own community. If you aren't in the U.S., someone might be able to suggest a similar resource where you are. I'm thinking of the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill (Nami). http://www.nami.org/ There is informaton on their website that will tell you more.

I agree that getting counseling for yourself is most likely a good idea. It is very stressful to feel responsible for taking care of someone who doesn't take care of themself. Counseling can help you to manage your stress and take care of yourself, as well as be better able to help them and to set limits and boundaries. I hope that you will keep coming back and talking to us here too.