I have very low self esteem too and for myself, i have found that getting to the root of it has helped me some. the root cause was my relationship with my mother. she was emotionally distant so I felt loved and rejected at the same time. but I had to understand why she was like that. it probably was because her mother was not very nurturing. and my grandmother's mother was probably the same and the cycle goes back and back. i now understand that they could not give what they themselves had never received. so i have forgiven them all. this does not work for everyone as some people have been terribly abused by the people who raised them. still, i hope some of this will help you. many warm hugs to (((you))).