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Originally Posted by RoseOfSharon
I question many of my thoughts and responses to people, generally assuming it is me with the problem...so would like some thoughts.
I have just been away for the weekend. On return, my wife said that she 'had to text me to get a reply from me'. Not strictly true, as I texted to say I had arrived, and would have texted each evening had she waited for me to do so.
I feel her statement indicates controlling behaviour on her part. While reasonable to expect an arrival text, should one force a reply text by texting? In my books, no. But I might just be being overly sensitive right now...
Plus mother behaves similarly...
Thank you, folks.
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She is communicating to you that she feels like she's not being thought of. There is far too little evidence in your statement to jump to any conclusion that she is trying to control you. I feel your questioning this is more of a reflection of your aversion to being controlled and possibly that you've dealt with it in the past and are ever vigilant against having this happen again. Of course this is my perspective on very little information you've stated here but that's what I get out of it.
I don't think anything in what she's said is "forcing a reply" at all. She simply stated that she has to text you to get you to say something. She did not give any ultimatums here stating that you must text her x number of times at such and such time. Nothing in what you've said implies this at all. If you are leaving out other information that would illustrate her need to control you then it would help to share that but honestly from what you've said, no. I think you are reading into it too much.