Oh girl you sound so much like me. I see so many red flags. "He is just gonna get twisted about it and stop being reasonable with me." That is not good. He needs to learn how to not get twisted about it and how to be more reasonable. If he can do those two things then you will really see what he is about.

You are right about it not being enough time. A little bit of time has help a little bit, a lot of time will help a lot.

Feeling guilty is a normal reaction. If you are any thing like I was when I left my H, I felt so guilty about everything I did. But for years I didn't value myself. If you don't value yourself, he is not going to value your needs either.

I didn't include it in the quote but you said his mom is on his case about his bad habits. What bad habits are those?

It sounds over all like things are going fairly well. It sounds like you know more time is needed and I agree. Have you guys considered marriage counseling. It has helped me and my H a lot. It helped some when were married and helped even more when we were separated. (it made it safe to talk about certain subjects and I didn't have to go back home to him) Now that we have reconciled and put our marriage back together ( I've been home 3 weeks now after being gone a year) we are still in marriage T. It is still helping. Just putting that out there.

Best of luck to you. Be careful and remember You And Your Kids Are Worth It.