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Originally Posted by LittleForgetMeNot
Things are working out. I'm not in a support group yet but I'm looking into my options. He returned the kids on Saturday and then came by to babysit on Monday. If things keep going as they are he's going to be taking them again Saturday night.
There's still about a year before I have to worry about school but most likely from mine as after only a week of living at his mom's he's now basically begging to come back. He says his mom gives him no privacy, judges his habit, and keeps telling him over and over that this is my fault.
I feel bad, I care enough that I don't want him to be unhappy and his mom continually blaming me isn't healthy, he's just gonna get twisted about it and possibly stop being reasonable with me but it hasn't been nearly enough time. I'm feeling guilty about having to say no next time we talk.
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I'm glad to hear the kids have already moved from one residence to the next, meaning his first move shows good faith as coparenting is concerned. That was a concern buried deep down, most likely or er most definitely from my own childhood.
Even if support groups aren't an option, individual counseling for both can help. It can be a tool of support to grow whether together or seperate or somewhere inbetween and reach a level to just be better role models to your kids.
Sometimes being willing to walk away is the best thing you can do for yourself. It helps release a mental block.
Having all the answers needn't be right now. Just know you have the right to a home that is safe from any abuse.