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Originally Posted by Rose76
There is no way he is going to be happy, unless you do what he wants. And there is no way his mother is going to be happy, unless you do what he wants. So you better do what he wants and let him back in. If that means your kids grow up in an environment of abuse, too bad! You and those kids are not important. What's important is him being happy.
After all, you do want him to be "reasonable." If you would let him come back and, then, if you would just act right, he would be absolutely fine. He's explained to you, I'm sure, that you are the one who causes problems by stressing him out . . . just like you're doing now. His mother can see that very clearly. So make up your mind that you are going to fly right and stop giving him all the grief you have been giving him. Show him that you care. That's all he needs.
If you want him to stay as the reasonable, untwisted man that he trys so hard to be, then let him come home where he belongs.
FogetMe, do you hear the crap you're telling yourself?
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I'm sorry but I never said I was going to do as he says. I'm just telling my feelings about it. Not to mention the fact that he doesn't blame me for his actions. He knows he's at fault, and that his anger issues come from his dad being an abusive husband and father as we'll. The only one blaming me is his mom because I slept with another person before he moved out and she considers it cheating. In her mind I'm a big cheater and she doesn't want him to be with me because I'LL hurt HIM. 😒 He's just trying to own up to it and his mom is being like that so.
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