i have had people do similar things, make a flippant remark about how they are going to end their life, etc. yet not really actually mean it. i have also heard people joke or make light of those things including a teenage family member who got put in their place by another family member who overheard them joking about self harm. they told them without my permission that i struggled for years, and it was no joke. i was surprised the family member did that because no one else ever seemed concerned or to take my issues serious. it is so hurtful and triggering when people joke or make light of those types of things as i have struggled with it for most of my life or at some points moreso. that also includes things like eating disorders which also seem to be joked about a lot which still upsets me even though i am in recovery.

generally, i would remove myself from the situation because i might lose it. one person who said something similar about ending their life was a sibling during a breakup. they weren't being serious as they actually laughed after saying it. i was floored because they knew my struggles (which were severe then). it was just ignorant to me in that case.

but in a case where a person doesn't know my struggles, i don't know what i would do..i would either say something or not say anything and remove myself from the situation to calm down but remind myself that not everyone goes through as severe of things as i did so i wouldn't potentially overreact (i have done that before..or so people TELL me i have) which would trigger me more. i have to keep myself in check at times like that or it really is difficult. i tend to get upset really fast with those situations and not be able to separate their issue from my own so can get confused.