Connection, for me, is just a comfortable rapport with that other person. I can find connection with total strangers standing in the grocery line (seriously), so finding it with a therapist (who I do not at all consider a stranger - not, at least, the ones I saw long-term) was really very easy. We were comfortable with each other. They "got" me and I "got" them, very quickly actually or I wouldn't have continued to see them beyond a few sessions. I refused to waste time trying to connect; for me, it's either there or it's not.

I don't see connection necessarily as a strong emotional attachment; that's something different although I had that with those same therapists as we got to know each other better and as I shared more about myself (and they about themselves). It's just a sense that we can comfortably communicate with each other and recognize something in each other that we kind of instinctively understand.