It's hard to say based upon one expression which could be semantics in considering if it's controlling, manipulative or guilt inducing since it could be matter of a factual statement. It could be leaving out, (You must have been very busy or tired), I had to text to get a response.

Based upon the fact that your mom is/was controlling this could be hypervigilant of you. At the same time, if there's a pattern, a history with your wife of behavior, this statement could add up with other issues.