13 - which I think is ridiculous. Even 12 I think is ridiculous.

I suppose it is out of concern. While certainly not an abusive situation it is extremely unhealthy for both the boy and her. He is unable to mature - particularly emotionally. But this inability to let him go is I believe also contributing to her poor mental health.

I think there come situtations which behoove us to take action - this is one of them.