Quote:
Originally Posted by DechanDawa
Thanks so much. I am not in therapy but I think the root cause is grief. My sister died and it seems the depression kicked in about six months after she died, but it wasn't just about her, it was loss on many levels. I tried (unsuccessfully) to find a grief counselor. I was "refused" by my local grief center for counseling because they said I had "complicated grief issues" and I kind of gave up after that. It has only been very recently that I have been bringing these issues into the light to examine them. Another problem was I tried contacting family members to discuss feelings around losing my sister, and it was shocking how invalidating everyone was. So coming from a family of origin that is so invalidating of basic emotions like grief...no wonder I have been messed up. Thank you so much for your supportive comments. It was like a ray of sunshine in a bleak, dark atmosphere.
|
I understand grief very well from a personal standpoint. Not having professional help can be very difficult as you don't know which way to turn with it. Are you familiar with the stages of grief ? ?
It is good that you are recognising the need to challenge, analyse and understand the emotions you are feeling. It is the only way in which you can move forwards.
I have no prior knowledge of your family so i cannot comment, however it is likely they will be dealing with grief as well, and as such will be unsuitable to assist as it is. I may well be incorrect, apologies if this is the case.
If you get on with a member on here, who is suitably grounded and stable, they may well be able to listen to you in depth and offer pointers for which way to go ?
You could always try attending the centre again, however just state the prime problem for the grief you have, then work from there ?
Keep it up, you're an amazingly strong person for accepting you need help.
"Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light."