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Originally Posted by ACQPL
I understand grief very well from a personal standpoint. Not having professional help can be very difficult as you don't know which way to turn with it. Are you familiar with the stages of grief ? ?
It is good that you are recognising the need to challenge, analyse and understand the emotions you are feeling. It is the only way in which you can move forwards.
I have no prior knowledge of your family so i cannot comment, however it is likely they will be dealing with grief as well, and as such will be unsuitable to assist as it is. I may well be incorrect, apologies if this is the case.
If you get on with a member on here, who is suitably grounded and stable, they may well be able to listen to you in depth and offer pointers for which way to go ?
You could always try attending the centre again, however just state the prime problem for the grief you have, then work from there ?
Keep it up, you're an amazingly strong person for accepting you need help.
"Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light."
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Thank you. Yes, I am familiar with the stages of grief. As I said, I think it was my sister's death that initiated the depressive episode, but then it kind of snowballed. In truth, I could probably use the services of a good therapist or counselor, but I believe that an unskilled person could do more harm than good.
I don't know. Your comments suggest I might just need to go on, to go forward.
Something I know about myself is that I seem to grieve longer than the normal person. This was the case with my mother's death, and it seemed to be the case with my sister's death. She was a very important figure in my life, and a very complex individual. Yes, it was really a great loss.
I think maybe...I am just taking longer...to recover. That's why this is called "complicated grief" --- not everyone experiences grief this way, but some do. Some never recover, which is quite sad. I don't intend to be that kind of person.
Thank you for your insightful words of wisdom.