If you have had multiple surgeries, that can take time to get over. If you have recently had a surgery, it can take a while for you to get over the affects of the anethesia too, that can take a good six months.

I think it would be better if you could find a therapist you can work with to figure yourself out and have someone to talk things out with. Husbands are not typically very good at doing that with tbh, unless he is a therapist.