I'm sorry you are going through all this. I hope whatever you said in your testimony won't become a bigger issue. It sounds like she just didn't like that you said she was something, and she's denying it.

My mother wouldn't have even written a letter. She just 'disowns'. I've been disowned several times in my life by her. She really means it. She just will never speak to me again and that's that.

As long as I did basically what my mother expected of me/wanted for me (because that was a reflection of her wants), we were great. She was very loving and giving.

But, when I defied her- disowned!

Now, at her old age, she is over the top with her anxieties and making everyone walk on egg shells. If she blows up now, we don't fear her anymore. She needs help from us too much, and knows she can't afford to disown anymore.