Avoidants and close relationships dont last.
I'd question any one who calls themselves an Avie.

I'm not saying that they don't happen, for we have the simple need of wanting to love and be loved... But we cannot maintain the connection for we are ever so hyper vigilant for signs of abandonment, and should they not appear we will push the person to make cracks appear in a ever testing need of reassurance all the while feeling not worthy of the person.

Our avoidant thoughts won't allow any relationship to last... Even if the other person knows of our diagnoses.

Diagnoses is important or two different views will only led to conflict especially in forums like this. My point is a someone with SA is going to have to different view according to their experiences to someone who has AvPD.