I thought I had a "connection" with 1 out of 3 of my previous long term Ts, by which I mean that on a more superficial level we were able to laugh about things, which came in especially useful to lighten the mood in dark times and also I felt like T could understand to how I felt and why, and therefore "got me". The connection for me was also evident through non-verbal means such as T's facial expression when I looked up through my tears or the hug I was offered in a difficult session.

However, once therapy was over, I wonder how much of it all was contrived. I don't think I would be able to ever trust in a Ts authenticity again so I can understand people's reluctance to believe in a connection.