I firmly believe ECT is back in vogue because ways have been found to limit its harmful effects. Try to keep in mind that your doctor has your best interests at heart. Note that you said he wants you to talk to someone about it. That doesn't mean you're committed to going through with it. Perhaps the specialist can allay your fears and provide you with the information you need to make an informed choice.

Either way though, whatever you decide welcome to the forums. We'll do our best to support you in any event. Take care.