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Originally Posted by objectclient
Ex T has no idea I am obsessing and I doubt she cares or feels responsible as she rejected me as a client when I got back in touch with her for further therapy.
I did raise the issue of over-attachment when in therapy with her and although I didn't notice my behavior for what it was at the time (i.e. obsessive) I am surprised and feel let-down as a client that ex T, a trained professional, didn't spot this and help me work through it. Instead, I am left with the intrusive and obsessive thoughts, like you say, months later.
You're spot on, I do want to tell her and feel she has failed in her duty as a T to help me work through what I've now been dumped with.
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Have you made attempts to communicate all this via email? I feel it's important for therapists to hear exactly what the outcome has been. I'm an advocate of using Yelp to get this message across. To say publicly that therapy caused obsessive, intrusive thoughts is bound to leave a mark.
This obsessive stuff, it is a nightmare. I have lived it for 2 years now. I think it is reprehensible that clients get the blame for it. Getting abandoned in the midst of it is even worse. One therapist told me she thinks the worst thing a therapist can do is provoke overwhelming dependency or attachment, and then drop the client.
At some point I realized my therapist did not have the means to actively help. But what she could have done was sit quietly while I told her just how agonizing this had been. For as long as I felt saying it. Not doing this makes the whole process a fraud.