T3 never got around to contacting ex-T. At first I wanted her to. Then after 6 or 8 months I told her I didn't want her to contact him. So I guess it was just as well that she didn't. But she did say in session a couple of times that she was going to contact him and it bothered me that she didn't follow through. Consistency is a big deal for me. And she always runs late. Always. I am usually her first client for the day and she is late even for that. And I didn't really like her. She doesn't listen as well as other ts. She tends to try to convince me of things (like that my brother's experience of reunification therapy with his kids will go smoothly and be a good thing) that are tangential to my therapy. But. But what she does works better for my MI than anything else I have found. If I had gone with the relationship being the most important thing in therapy, I would have quit with her. And I would be willing to be that it was quite a while before she remembered my last name.

All that to say that I am no longer convinced that it is all about the relationship. T1 who has been pretty much fabulous as far as relationship goes hasn't been able to address my MI.

The not perfect thing and the I'm authentic thing do not give me warm fuzzies. Why would he even need to say that? I'm fairly confident that you did not march in there demanding that he be perfect. Or insinuate that he is inauthentic. How many sessions has it been? Just 2? Maybe he is feeling like he has to fill your prev T's rather large shoes.